How to approach women

The art of approaching women does not only involve knowing what to say or what not to say, but also interpreting body language signals they are sending.  Meeting someone new may seem daunting if you are not the most outgoing type, but by using these techniques you can greatly improve your chances to meet that woman and impress her.

After reading these tips you will know when to approach a woman, how to approach her and what you could say or should avoid in conversation.

Keep in mind that regardless of whether you are Mr charming or not there are certain instant turn off’s that will send her running. If you don’t want to witness a woman’s sidestep technique remember these four big No No’s:

Bad Breath

Bad Body Odour

Bad Dress Sense (Taking the event and location into consideration)

Cheesy pick up lines

When to approach her

Body language signals are used to know when to approach. The first thing you need to look for is “blocking”. Blocking is a deliberate way of keeping strangers from entering her safe zone.  A woman blocks by placing her handbag on the seat beside her, objects around her or standing in a tight circle of friends with her back facing any possible intruders. If she is blocking and doesn’t look like she wants to be bothered, move along.  Chances are she is already in a relationship.

If her body is facing toward the crowds (away from her friends) she is more open and willing to be approached.  This brings me to the next body language tip.

How to approach her

Women prefer being approached from the front. Being approached from the side or from behind is subconsciously considered a threat. Men, on the other hand, prefer being approached from the side and a front approach is seen as confrontational.

Before making your move you can test the waters by making eye contact with her and giving her a dashing smile. Ten to one she will smile back but if you have caught her attention she will glance at you every so often to see what you are doing. This is a sure sign of interest and the green light to go up to her.

What to say and what not to say

Dating pick up lines do not work! The only thing you’ll accomplish with a pick-up line is her having a good laugh with her friends about it behind your back and so botch-up your chances with several women in the process.

Instead you could rather introduce yourself and ask her a question. In order to get the conversation flowing, ask open ended questions. Open ended questions require more than just a yes/no response. If she is not interested she’ll find a way to end the conversation quickly. In that case, cut your losses and move along.

There is nothing wrong with offering to buy a woman a drink. Just don’t use it as an opening line or when she already has a drink standing in front of her. If the conversation is going well and you are planning to get yourself a drink, offer to get her one. You will be seen as being attentive.

Lastly, walk tall and be confident (Take note, NOT vain or arrogant, you don’t want her thinking you are an obnoxious jerk who spends more time doing your hair than she does.) and you will, without a doubt, impress her.